Lately it seems as though my life, the activities and all the circumstances within it are as cliche as it comes, from former advice given to me from the “real adults”. It’s like all of those signs you find in Home Goods and Hobby Lobby have conspired to take hold of my life. All of those quotes I saved onto my Pinterest years ago, are coming back to teach me a thing or two. Is that what becoming an adult is? I mean, why else would all of these sayings and advice– along with the signs for your home exist in the first place. Here are just a few that capture where I am at right now… (Obviously there are some different variations of these floating out there– )
- “Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.” Similarly… “Who you spend your time with will have a great impact on what kind of life you live. Spend time with the right people.” || Without going too in dept, in recent months I have taken a step back from some people in my life. I’ve done this in order to make my life filled with more happiness and less drama. It has been tough but at some point you do finally realize who is helping your life flourish and who is draining your emotional energy. Which leads into the next one…
- “Hard times/Changing time will reveal who your true friends really are.” || When your “best friend” starts to accuse you of “hating on their success” because you’re living your own life and not getting involved in theirs, either they’re not as true as you thought or you finally come to terms with the fact that they have undiagnosed Narcissistic Personality Disorder. True story.
- “The minute you start caring what other people think is the minute you stop being yourself. “|| After almost 27 years I am finally coming to terms with who I am and who I want to be. Some people along the way have shaped that, but I’m no longer in the position to let other opinions of who I should and shouldn’t be at this point in my life influence me. I do, say, wear and feel what I want. I’ve always had some hesitation in these areas but I am in a better place now where I am taking ownership of these feelings.
- “Home is where the heart is.” more on my point… “Build a friendship before marrying someone. Marry your best friend.” || Well yeah, I had to save the cheesiest one for last. Duh! My husband and I do A LOT of things. We hang out with A LOT of people. We’ve experiences A LOT in the past 8 years. I can say hands down, it still holds true– most of my happiest memories are spending a day in bed, drinking, watching movies, eating junk food and talking to Scott about life. There is something about Silly Sundays that make me fall in love with my husband all over again. This past weekend was no exception.
Getting older and “adulting” is exhausting. It takes everything in my being to put moments aside, breathe and appreciate that things get better with age and time. It’s overwhelming. At this moment in my life I am starting to enjoy it all. I want to remember this feeling in case in a few months or a couple years I get frustrated with all of the craziness again.
There is something about waking up in your own house, with your own rules, with a man in your bed and the food & booze that you picked out in the fridge. It is liberating. All the of the struggles and lessons learned become worth it. Some times we forget to remember how bad we wanted this independence back when were kids & teens. This is my life. I built it.
Thanks to all the real adults for the advice along the way.